Comments on: Middle age/Middle Passage

By: Paul

Paul — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 15:12:29 +0000

@Laurie: I think that it is really hitting my wife very hard. That roll of mother is extremely important to her. For me, I’m looking forward to spending some alone time with my wife in our new rolls as independent adults.

By: Laurie

Laurie — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 13:04:52 +0000

Thought provoking post. I’ve been in the midst of redefining my role in this world since my oldest enlisted in the army in 2005. That event made me realize that my main role as “mom” was officially in transition. Soon the kids would all be out of the house and transitioning into their new roles as independent young adults. It has been quite a journey so far and I just sort of go with the flow of things these days. I think I was stressing out with a sort of urgency to find my new role but I now realize there is no urgency and just let things play out. I am not passive by any means but I just don’t worry about it or analyze it so much any more. I find things much more peaceful this way.

By: Bob Rogers

Bob Rogers — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 06:03:30 +0000

What a thought-provoking post – it really resonates. I’m looking forward to getting my hands on the book you recommended.

By: Dale Carter

Dale Carter — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 13:58:37 +0000

An excellent post that is likely to touch anyone who is going through/or been through those years. One thing I often said to myself over the years, “Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should.” That helped me make the transitions I needed to and move on.
I’m a female, age 57, thankful I am at this stage of life…although it is a continuing journey. I navigated through several stressful careers to where I am today, doing what I know I am supposed to do, enjoying every day, and at long last, finding work-life balance. The journey here was incredible but the journey is what made me who I am today…and I made it with my husband of 36 years and 3 amazing children. I very much want to continue the journey and not be complacent.

I’m so glad I found your blog.

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Fri, 31 Jul 2009 16:43:24 +0000

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By: Paul

Paul — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 21:57:28 +0000

Wow! So many fantastic comments!

@Steve: Thanks for sharing that story. It was quite funny, especially because of the reasons that you decided not to get a piercing and a tattoo! LOL! Ouch!!!

@Robert: I know that no one has the answers, not even me! My wife and I, since we are going through this at the same time, discuss it, but never come to any conclusions. With each question that you ask, and perhaps answer, some 50 more pop up! Thank goodness for photography! It gives me something to do other than ponder my world … or perhaps it is yet another way that I ponder my existence.

@Eric: My camera certainly helps to keep me afloat! As I told Robert, I’m thankful for it!

@Earl: I certainly hope that the early 50′s will be less intimidating and unsettling. I need a good pair of sea legs! Can I borrow yours?!

@Ove: I’m that we met too!

By: Anita Jesse

Anita Jesse — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 20:53:40 +0000

Interesting to me that I read this the way Earl thought it. Hmmm.

By: Earl

Earl — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 18:09:41 +0000

Correction to my prior comment “Be aware there may NOT be final answers to all the questions.”

By: Tracks in the Sand « Yesterday's Light

Tracks in the Sand « Yesterday's Light — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 18:07:51 +0000

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By: Ove

Ove — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 13:14:36 +0000

I know what you mean, I’m 45 and also full of thoughts.

“I know that this growth is necessary and it is a gift; however, sometimes, I just want to know where I can exchange this gift or get a refund!”

I’m happy I learnt to know you. You’re quite a revolution, sometimes. And hell of a writer!