1. Be impeccable with your words
2. Don’t take anything personally
3. Never assume anything
4. Always do your best
Four “simple” agreements, easy to read, easy to understand, perhaps, but they take a while to implement, possibly years. If you can implement them, and step outside of the judgement zone …
Be impeccable with your words: What does it mean to be impeccable with your words? It means without sin, as stated in his book – without blame/judgement of others and yourself. This means no talking down about yourself or others. It means make sure that what comes out of your mind is goodness and love, or perhaps nothing at all.
Don’t take anything personally: Whatever someone says about you, against you, or even for you, has nothing to do with you. It’s all a projection of what’s going on in their minds and has nothing, at all, to do with you. Nothing. So, whatever they say, don’t take it personally. Remember, they are running their own story, their own view of the world, just as you are.
Never assume anything – Truthfully, we don’t know what the heck is going on. Let’s say that your mate comes home and she was late by about 2 hours and didn’t call. How do you greet her? Do you have anger because you assumed that she disrespected your time, or that she’s disrespectful in general and “it’s common sense” to call and let someone know. So, as soon as she hits the store, you start in on her about her disrespectfulness. She gets defensive, because she takes it personally, an assault on who she believes that she is, and it’s all out war. Later, you find out that she was in traffic, her phone had run out of juice, and she didn’t have a way to call because she’d forgotten her charger.
Always do your best: There are days when I walk 8 miles, others when I walk 4, and sometimes I just walk 2. I do as much as I can that day. Physically, I may not feel strong enough to do 8 miles because I’m tired from having done 8 miles, 3 days in a row, or whatever. So, I’ll do the best that I can, 2 miles. This is not an excuse for setting the bar very high and then judging yourself as being lazy, bad, or whatever (remember, keep those words impeccable), it’s just about keeping the judge at bay. Accepting that your best varies, from day to day. Being able to accept your output as your best works to your advantage. So, instead of sitting on the couch all day, if 2 miles is the best that I can do that day, that’s what counts. If the judge chimes in, I simply thank him for his opinion, and move on. I’m happy. I did my best.
This is another book that I’m happy to give away as a gift and one that I have read multiple types and always enjoy re-reading. It never gets old, to me.