One morning, in Guatemala, there were 5 of us sitting around the breakfast table. Kayla was sitting to my right, Adéle directly across from me, Meghan to her left, and Pablo, one of the residents of the house, to my immediate left, at the head of the table.
We were having a conversation about something. As normally happens with conversations, there was a lull in it. Everyone became quiet.
I like tacos!!!
Suddenly, Kayla blurted out: I like tacos! I turned, looked at her as if to say WTF??? 🙂
Paul: Why did you say that?
Kayla: Because it got quiet and I don’t like when it’s quiet.
Paul: Well, other people do and it’s normal to have a break in the conversation
Kayla: Oh. Well, I think that people are sad when they are quiet.
Paul: Well, here’s another thing that you can learn. They aren’t. Sometimes, they like quiet time. Just because you don’t doesn’t mean that other people don’t.
Kayla: I guess that I never thought about that.
Paul: Something to think about. 🙂
As I thought more about it, there was hardly ever any time that she was without her earbuds in, save for times when I didn’t allow it, pumping music into her brain. No silent moments. This, I couldn’t fathom on my side of “reality”. I need lots of quiet spaces, downtime.
Maybe she did learn that it’s ok to have a pause in the conversation and that, just because she’s uncomfortable with it, other people aren’t.